美國文化脫口秀 第406期:你誤解了love和hate的含義

今天說說英語里最簡單、也最復雜的兩個詞：“愛”和“恨”，英語的用法和中文很不一樣!聽Jenny, Adam教你如何使用英語的愛恨情仇!

關鍵詞：

Love: 愛

Hate: 恨

The use of "love" and "hate" in English is completely different from Chinese: 愛、恨在英語里的用法和中文非常不同

It's nowhere near the same: 大相徑庭、完全不同

比如：如果你聽到"I love you",你的第一反應是?

"So sweet!"

"I love you too!"

但是，美國人的反應是：

Love是一顆炸彈!

大家記得最近節(jié)目放過一首歌"Something stupid"嗎?

歌詞有一句：

Then I go and spoil it all by saying something stupid like "I love you"

Why is saying "I love you" stupid? 說“我愛你”怎么會很傻呢?

Isn't it sweet? 不是很甜蜜嗎?

We call it "drop the L bomb": 英語有個說法，叫扔L炸彈

Too much too soon: 壓力太大、來得太快

Americans tend to be very careful when it comes to saying "I love you": 美國人對說“我愛你”特別謹慎

但是，日常生活中，美國人卻常把love掛在嘴邊

比如吃漢堡：

McDonald's slogan "I'm lovin' it": 麥當勞的廣告語“我就喜歡”

口語里，“love”還能怎么用?

I loved that movie. It was the best! 我太喜歡那部電影了，真好看!

Did you see the show? 你看那個節(jié)目了嗎?

Yes, I totally love it! 看了，太喜歡了!

How is the food? 菜好吃嗎?

I love it! Just love it! 好吃!我太喜歡了!

上面這些日常情況，中文基本都會用“喜歡”表達情緒;可是英語卻要用“love".

如果用“I like it", 反而容易造成誤解!

Why?為什么?

"I like it" or "I like it very much" doesn't sound very sincere or enthusiastic: 我喜歡、我非常喜歡在英語里聽起來反而有點不真誠、沒什么熱情

總之：

表達你非常喜歡一個事物，大家記得用love!

家人之間的love

"Love" is also used a lot between family members, parents and kids: love在親人、父母、孩子之間也很常用

I don't think I've ever said "我愛你" to my parents: 我好像從來沒對我父母說過“我愛你”

It feels so awkward. I don't know how to say it: 感覺很尷尬，不知怎么開口

My parents don't really say it to me either: 我爸爸媽媽好像也不會跟我說

But I say "mommy loves you" to my sons all the time: 但是，我倒常用英語跟孩子說“mommy loves you"

I don't really say it in Chinese though, feels really awkward: 但是我不太用中文跟他們說“媽媽愛你”，也覺得很尷尬

Maybe when it's not your mother tongue, it's easier to say: 有可能不是自己的母語，反而更容易說

不過有些美國人也覺得對家人說"I love you"有點兒別扭

WASPs don't say it as much: 英國血統的美國人好像沒那么常說“I love you"

WASP (White Anglo Saxon Protestant): 新教徒的盎格魯撒克遜裔美國人

They are more reserved: 他們比較含蓄

Sons don't say "I love you" as much as daughters: 還有兒子，也不像女兒那么愿意對父母說"I love you"

Girls, even grown-up girls say it all the time to their parents: 女兒，就算是成年了，也常跟父母說“I love you"

你誤解了love和hate的含義

說完love, 說hate

中文“恨”是個特別強烈的字，日常很少用。

但是英語的hate口語卻很常用。

基本，剛才所有用love的例子，也可以很自然地用hate。

比如：

I hated that movie. It was so bad. 那部電影太難看了，我一點兒都不喜歡。

It has been raining non-stop. I hate this weather! 天天下雨，天氣太討厭了!

Traffic is so bad. I hate it! 路真堵，煩死了!

所以，hate在口語里，更多是“討厭”的意思，而不是恨。

To hate a person?

用在人身上呢?

Be careful with using "hate" on people: 用在人身上，要特別謹慎

You can use it jokingly with your friends: 也許跟很好的朋友，可以用調侃的語氣

比如：

A: My husband is taking me on a trip to Italy! 我老公要帶我去意大利玩兒

B: Oh, I hate you! 哦，我恨你!羨慕、嫉妒、恨

But in general, hate is a very strong word if you use it on people: 不過總的來說，hate用在人身上，語氣是很強的

之前說到hate在口語里有“討厭”的意思，那“真討厭!”英語怎么說?

I hate it when you ...: 英語通常會說那個具體的行為

But it's still pretty direct and strong: 不過語氣還是挺直接、強烈的

When a Chinese girl says "你真討厭"，it's mostly being coquettish: 中國女生說“你真討厭”，經常是在撒嬌

Cutesy: 嗲、撒嬌

A love hate relationship | 愛恨交織

A love hate relationship with someone or something: 又愛又恨、愛恨交加的關系

怎么用?

I have a love hate relationship with my phone: 我對手機真是又愛又恨

A love hate relationship with your work/your boss: 對于自己的工作、對于自己的老板，大概也有些愛恨交織的情緒

Many foreigners have a love hate relationship with China: 很多外國人，對中國也是愛恨交織

*大家注意不是A love and hate relationship;

而是A love hate relationship*

Love hate的另一個高段位用法

Love to hate: 又愛又恨、欲罷不能

Especially true with celebrities: 大眾看明星，經常都有這種情緒

Kim Kardashian is someone many Americans love to hate: 比如卡戴珊，美國人就是love to hate

They hate her for being so high-profile, but they love to read news about her: 很多人討厭她高調、作秀，但同時又特別愛看她的八卦新聞

They can't get enough of her: 欲罷不能

Is there a Chinese celebrity who people love to hate? 中國有這樣的明星嗎?