卡耐基演講·二、誠(chéng)心誠(chéng)意地贊賞聽(tīng)眾

聽(tīng)眾由單個(gè)的人組成，所以聽(tīng)眾的反應(yīng)也跟個(gè)人的反應(yīng)一樣。如果你敢公然地批評(píng)聽(tīng)眾，必然導(dǎo)致憤懣。如果你對(duì)他們做的值得稱贊的事表示贊美，你就贏得了通往他們心靈的鑰匙。但這也需要你認(rèn)真地研究一下，因?yàn)槿绻愕馁澝朗且恍┛鋸?、肉麻的詞句，比如“各位是我曾面對(duì)過(guò)的最有智慧的聽(tīng)眾”，也會(huì)被大多數(shù)的聽(tīng)眾認(rèn)為是空洞的諂媚而感到厭惡。Audiences are composed of individuals, and they react like individuals. Openly criticize an audience and they resent it. Show your appreciation for something they have done that is worthy of praise, and you win a passport into their hearts. This often requires some research on your part. Such fulsome phrases as "this is the most intelligent audience I have ever addressed," are resented as hollow flattery by most audiences.

引用大演講家姜西·M.德普說(shuō)的話：你得“告訴他們一些有關(guān)他們的事，并且是他們沒(méi)想到你可能會(huì)知道的事”。舉例說(shuō)，有個(gè)人最近要在巴爾的摩基瓦尼俱樂(lè)部演講，卻找不到有關(guān)該俱樂(lè)部的特殊資料，只知道在會(huì)員里曾有一位出任國(guó)際會(huì)長(zhǎng)，一位出任國(guó)際董事。這些對(duì)俱樂(lè)部里的人來(lái)說(shuō)并不是新聞。他想來(lái)點(diǎn)新鮮的東西，于是這樣開(kāi)場(chǎng)：“巴爾的摩基瓦尼俱樂(lè)部是101898個(gè)基瓦尼俱樂(lè)部中的一個(gè)！”會(huì)員們感到有些奇怪：這個(gè)演講人根本就錯(cuò)了——因?yàn)槿蛑挥?897個(gè)基瓦尼俱樂(lè)部。然后講演者接著說(shuō)：In the words of a great speaker, Chauncey M. Depew, you have to "tell them something about themselves that they didn't think you could possibly know." For example, a man who spoke before the Baltimore Kiwanis Club recently could find nothing unusual about that club except that it had in its membership a past international president and an international trustee. This was no news to the members of the club. So he tried to give it a new twist. He started his talk with this sentence: "The Baltimore Kiwanis Club is one club in 101 ,898 !" The members listened. This speaker was certainly wrong-because there were only 2,897 Kiwanis Clubs in the world. The speaker then went on:

“可是，就算各位不相信吧，它仍然是個(gè)事實(shí)，至少在數(shù)學(xué)方面是這樣。各位的俱樂(lè)部是101898個(gè)當(dāng)中的一個(gè)，不是100 000或200 000個(gè)當(dāng)中的一個(gè)，而確實(shí)是101898個(gè)當(dāng)中的一個(gè)。Yes, even if you don't believe it, it is still a fact that your club, mathematically at least, is one in 101,898. Not one club in 100,000 or one in 200,000, but just exactly one in 101,898.

“我是怎樣算出來(lái)的呢？全球的基瓦尼俱樂(lè)部只有2897個(gè)。這樣的話，巴爾的摩俱樂(lè)部過(guò)去曾出過(guò)一位國(guó)際會(huì)長(zhǎng)和一位國(guó)際董事。從數(shù)學(xué)的觀點(diǎn)看，任何一個(gè)基瓦尼俱樂(lè)部想同時(shí)出個(gè)國(guó)際會(huì)長(zhǎng)和董事的幾率是1：101898——我有鐘斯、霍普金斯數(shù)學(xué)博士學(xué)位，可以證明我計(jì)算出來(lái)的數(shù)字的準(zhǔn)確性?！庇谑牵玫搅舜蠹业淖⒁?。How do I figure that out? Kiwanis International has only 2,897 member clubs. Well, the Baltimore club has a past president of Kiwanis International and an international trustee. Mathematically, the chances that any Kiwanis club will have both a past president and an international trustee at the same time are one in 101,898-and the reason I know it's right is that I got a Johns Hopkins Ph.D. in mathematics to figure it out for me.

在你表示贊美的時(shí)候，要確實(shí)百分之百的真誠(chéng)。如果沒(méi)有誠(chéng)意的話，偶爾可以騙過(guò)個(gè)人，卻永遠(yuǎn)騙不了聽(tīng)眾。什么“這樣高度智慧的聽(tīng)眾……”“這來(lái)自霍霍柯斯、新澤西……的美女和俠士的特別聚會(huì)”，“我真高興在這兒，因?yàn)槲覑?ài)你們每一位”……哎呀！千萬(wàn)不要這樣！如果表示不出真心的贊賞，那一點(diǎn)也別表示還好一些。Be exactly one hundred per cent sincere. An insincere statement may occasionally fool an individual, but it never fools an audience. "This highly intelligent audience..." "This exceptional gathering of the beauty and chivalry of Honour, New Jersey..." "I'm glad to be here because I love each one of you." No, no, no! If you can't show sincere appreciation, don't show any!