Quora精選：愛(ài)上一個(gè)不會(huì)回應(yīng)你的人

Is it okay to love someone knowing you can't be with them?你明知道無(wú)法和他/她在一起，卻還是去愛(ài)他/她，這樣好嗎？

 

獲得4.5k好評(píng)的答案@Gene Spafford

Of course you can love someone without spending the future with them…and you don't need permission to do so!你當(dāng)然可以去愛(ài)一個(gè)無(wú)法共度未來(lái)的人······而且你做這件事并不需要得到他人首肯。However, a key thing is to avoid wistfully wishing that you could be with that person if that is not to be. Accept what fate has given you, and maybe seek out others to love, too. Love is a renewable resource.但是，關(guān)鍵是你要避免極度期盼，不要期待假如換種情況，你就可以和那個(gè)人在一起。接受你的命運(yùn)吧，也許你可以找到其他人來(lái)愛(ài)。愛(ài)是可再生資源。

 

獲得6好評(píng)的答案@Elsa Schraeder

Sure, it is ok to love someone knowing that you will never be with them. However, be careful that this love doesn't morph into an emotional block which prevents you from finding and loving someone who you can be with.當(dāng)然可以，你可以去愛(ài)一個(gè)明知道永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)在一起的人。但是，你要注意，不要讓這份愛(ài)成為你的感情障礙，阻止你尋找并愛(ài)上一個(gè)可以與你在一起的人。

 

獲得54好評(píng)的答案@Anshi Akanksha

Yes!可以！Loving someone who cannot love you the same way in return is not a weakness. It’s one of the most courageous things you’ll ever do.愛(ài)上一個(gè)不能像你愛(ài)他一樣愛(ài)你的人，所得到的并不是軟弱，這是你所做過(guò)的最勇敢的事之一。If the one you love doesn't love you back the same way, it is like you are putting your armour at their feet and saying "I will not fight you in this. I have loved you and that means that I have already won."你愛(ài)的人不像你愛(ài)他一樣來(lái)回應(yīng)你，這就像是你把自己的盔甲放在他們的腳邊，然后說(shuō)“我不會(huì)用這個(gè)來(lái)傷害你。我愛(ài)你，而這意味著我已經(jīng)贏了?！?p> 

獲得60好評(píng)的答案@Joy Samudrala

Yes it's completely okay to love someone knowing that they won't be with you in future!!!是的，當(dāng)然可以去愛(ài)一個(gè)明知道不會(huì)和你共度未來(lái)的人?。?！HAVE NO EXPECTATIONS!!!不要有所期待?。?！This is the root cause which can hurt you pretty bad. The more you expect, the more you remain attached to the person and this will make things hard and worse for you. Love her but don't expect her to love you back, this will leave nothing but disappointment and make it worse.這是會(huì)傷你很深的最主要原因。你期望得越多，你就越會(huì)去與她保持聯(lián)系，而對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)這會(huì)讓事情變得更糟、更艱難。愛(ài)她，但不要期待她也會(huì)愛(ài)你，否則只會(huì)徒增失望，讓事情更糟。So don't expect anything from her and just do things, because you just wanna love her and want her to be happy.所以不要期待從她那里得到什么，你只要做你應(yīng)做的，因?yàn)槟阒皇窍胍獝?ài)著她、想要她快樂(lè)。Small piece of advice.給個(gè)小建議。If you think it's not possible to forget about her because she's the one you love and you just can't really get over her...trust me it's all in your head. Time is being wasted. She's standing like a door between you and the women who's right for you. Get over and things shall happen.如果你覺(jué)得沒(méi)法忘了她，因?yàn)槟銗?ài)她，過(guò)不了她這道坎······相信我，這都只是你腦中的想法。時(shí)光在流逝，她就像是一扇門(mén)，站在你和你的真命天女之間，跨過(guò)去，一切都會(huì)好起來(lái)。You deserve someone better.你值得更好的人。

 

(來(lái)源:滬江)