時(shí)差N小時(shí):為酗酒的女兒煩惱

Dear Annie: My unmarried 30-year-old daughter hasa drinking and behavioral problem that hasescalated over the past year.

親愛(ài)Annie：我還未婚的30歲女兒養(yǎng)成了飲酒的壞習(xí)慣，這么多年都沒(méi)有得到改善。

We have encouraged Terrie to get alcohol counseling or attend A.A.

我們鼓勵(lì)過(guò)Terrie去戒毒所或參加戒酒互助會(huì)。

She tried it once and quit. I believe she is bipolar, but mental health counselors will not treather until she quits drinking.

她曾經(jīng)嘗試過(guò)，但還是放棄了。我覺(jué)得她處于兩個(gè)極端，但是心理健康咨詢(xún)師說(shuō)直到她把酒癮戒掉才能給她心理上的治療。

After her last outburst, I sent her a text message and said we could no longer have arelationship unless she gets help.

在她上次發(fā)病后，我寫(xiě)給她一張便條，上面寫(xiě)著除非她接受治療，要不我們就斷絕關(guān)系。

Shortly after, she left town and moved to Florida with a friend who also drinks.

不久后，她離開(kāi)了，和一個(gè)同樣酗酒的朋友搬去了佛羅里達(dá)州.

Should I keep the lines of communication open, or will my ultimatum help her reach bottomso she can start climbing back up?

我應(yīng)該與她保持溝通,或者再最后忍耐一下，也許這樣她就可以回來(lái)了?

I tried Al-Anon, but the members only offer support and friendship to each other, which is nice,but it doesn't change my daughter.

我去過(guò)匿名戒酒者協(xié)會(huì)，但那兒的成員都是彼此提供支持與幫助，那兒很好，不過(guò)卻沒(méi)能改變我女兒。

— Concerned Mom Dear Concerned: Al-Anon is not intended to change the alcoholic's behavior,only your response to it.

一位母親提到：匿名戒酒者協(xié)會(huì)不是在有意改變酗酒者的行為，而要改變你們的反應(yīng)。

Choosing not to stay in touch would be for your mental health, not hers.

選擇不去交流，可能對(duì)你的精神健康有益，而不對(duì)她有益。

No one can "fix" Terrie until she admits she has a problem, and she doesn't seem ready.

沒(méi)人能修正Terrie的人生，除非她能正視自己的問(wèn)題，而且現(xiàn)在看來(lái)，她好像還沒(méi)有準(zhǔn)備好。

Many who are bipolar self-medicate with alcohol and drugs, and there are treatmentprograms that address both disorders.

世界上有很多極端地使用酒精或毒品的人，而且現(xiàn)在也有許多針對(duì)這兩種神經(jīng)錯(cuò)亂的治療方案。

If Terrie wants help, she should contact a university medical center department of psychiatryfor a referral.

如果Terrie需要幫助，我建議她聯(lián)系大學(xué)醫(yī)療中心的心理科。