The child' s happiness is al I-important, the psychologists say, but what about the parents' happiness? Parents suffer constantly from fear and guilt while their children gaily romp about pulling the place apart.A good old-fashioned spanking is out of the question: no modern child-rearing manual would permit such barbarity.The trouble is you are not allowed even to shout.Who knows what dccp psychological wounds you might inflict?Certainly a child needs love, and a lot of it. But the excessive permissiveness of modern parents is surely doing more harm than good.
心理學(xué)家們說孩子的幸福是至關(guān)重要的,那么,父母們的幸福又如何呢?當(dāng)孩子們歡蹦亂跳地嬉戲玩耍把家里鬧個底兒朝天時,他們的父母卻忍受著擔(dān)心和負(fù)疚的折磨。要想像前人一樣狠狠地揍他一頓屁股是根本不可能的了,因?yàn)楝F(xiàn)代育兒指南絕不會允許這種野蠻行徑。麻煩的是,甚至連大聲吼他一頓也不可以。誰能說清你這一吼會給孩子造成多么深的心靈創(chuàng)傷呢?誠然,孩子們需要愛,許許多多的愛,但是現(xiàn)代父母過度的嬌縱絕對是弊大于利?!?br />