下次你感到不開心的時候,問自己這些問題:第一,今天,我可以感激什么?現(xiàn)在,我的生活中,有什么是美好的?寫下三件事。寫下來,不要只想不寫。不要單純地在腦海里想想而已,而是要用心感受,你可以感激什么事情,然后動手把它們寫下來。相比之下,這整個過程對你的影響更大。
You could be grateful for a person in your life. You might be thankful you have your health, when so many around the world are suffering from excruciating physical pain. You might be happy to have your limbs and full body function when many others aren't so lucky. You might be happy you live in your amazing country when others are suffering through war and terrible events.
你可能感激生命中的某個人。你可能感激自己擁有健康,因為世界上很多人在遭受可怕的病痛。你可能感激自己擁有健全的四肢和軀體,因為很多人并沒有你這么幸運。你可能感激自己生活在一個很棒的國家,因為很多人正在忍受戰(zhàn)爭和可怕的事件。
You might be thankful for some great qualities you do have. You know, kindness, compassion toward others, understanding. You might be grateful you are now feeling low right now, because that means something must change in your life, and change can be the greatest time to re-invent yourself, to start fresh and create your best-ever life. Your best-ever feeling state.
你可能感激自己擁有一些美好的品質(zhì)。比如,善良,同情心,善解人意。你可能感激自己現(xiàn)在正在感到難過,因為這意味著你必須改變生活中的某些事,而改變就是重塑自己的最佳機遇,它讓你重頭開始,創(chuàng)造最好的生活,獲得最佳的狀態(tài)。
2. Ask yourself: What have I done in the past day, week, month or year that I enjoyed? List a few things, whatever you can think of that made you feel alive in the past year. Whatever made you feel happy, whatever you did that made time stop. List those things and commit to finding time to do more of that.
第二,問自己,在過去的一天,一周,一個月,或者一年里,我做了什么自己喜歡做的事?列出幾件事情,只要是過去一年里你做的讓自己感到活著的意義的事,只要是讓你感到快樂的事,只要是讓你希望無限延長某一瞬間的事,都算數(shù)。把這些事情列出來,然后努力留出時間去多做做這些事。
Don't tie this to people. You are not dependent on another person to make you happy. You generate your happiness, and if you think it came from another person, you are wrong. It came from you and the idea you had that you needed the other to complete your life, you don't. You only need to change your perception.
不要依賴于別人。你的快樂,不是別人給的。你的快樂,是你自己創(chuàng)造的。如果你認(rèn)為,你的快樂來源于他人,那么你錯了,快樂來自你自己。你覺得自己需要其他人才能讓自己的生命完整,而事實并非如此。你只需要改變自己的心境。
3. Ask yourself: What have I read or learnt in the last day, week, month or year that was positive? What have I done that lifted my spirits and helped me develop my mental strength? Learning is growing. All successful people, and by successful we always mean successfully happy, content and fulfilled people. They all know that reading, listening and learning to positive and self-development material is essential to a well-lived life. Not just every now and then, not when you can squeeze it in to your busy schedule. Every single day!
第三,問自己:過去的一天,一周,一個月,或者一年里,我學(xué)到了什么積極的事情?我有沒有做一些讓自己開心的事,一些讓自己的心理更強大的事?學(xué)習(xí),就是成長。所有擁有快樂的、感到滿足的、有所成就的人,他們都知道,我們要閱讀、聆聽、學(xué)習(xí)那些積極向上的、有助于個人成長的事情,這對我們的美好生活是很重要的。這不是三天打魚兩天曬網(wǎng),不是你要強行擠時間才能在忙碌的生活中做這些事。把它們變成你的日常!
What could be more important than you feel good? There is nothing. And if you are one of the many who through around the time excuse, that doesn't roll here. The busiest people on earth find time for self-growth, because they understand the fact that a better you is better for all those around you. When you make time to fill yourself up first, you have more quality time for all the people and tasks in your life. When you feel better, you do better.
讓你自己快樂,有什么比這個更重要呢?沒有。如果你用沒時間來當(dāng)借口,這是行不通的。即使是世界上最忙碌的人,他們也會留出時間來發(fā)展自己,因為他們知道,你變得更好,你周圍的人和事才會變得更好。當(dāng)你留出時間,讓自己的生活變充實,你就會有更多的高質(zhì)量時間來和人們相處,來處理生活中的事情。你的狀態(tài)更好,你就會做得更好。
Your family and friends would much rather have you a little less but fully there in presence. A you that is happy and vibrant, rather than you there around the clock but always someplace else in your mind, always thinking about the next insignificant task that needs to be done. Society can easily drag us back into the normal world of stress, over thinking, comparison to others and forgetting the beauty of life. If you want a better life than most, a happier life, you must commit to do what most don't, and that is find time to work on you every day.
你的家人和朋友,他們更希望你和他們待在一起時是全心全意的,就算不是能經(jīng)常跟你在一起也沒關(guān)系。他們希望和一個快樂的、有活力的你在一起,而不是一個忙得團團轉(zhuǎn)的、無法專心的、總是在惦記著下一個無關(guān)緊要的任務(wù)得你。這個社會可以輕而易舉地讓我們被迫面對現(xiàn)實的壓力,讓我們想太多,讓我們和他人攀比,讓我們忘記生活的美好。如果你想得比大多數(shù)人好,活得更開心,那么你就要努力去做一些其他人做不來的事,這就意味著,你每天都要好好發(fā)展自己。
It needs only be 10 to 15 minutes a day. Everyone can find that time. Sleep 15 minutes less if you have to. Get up, get grateful. Get in sync with who you want to be. Get some goals. Ask yourself what you want out of life. Picture the person you want to be. Never forget, a better you is better for everyone around you.
這可能只需要每天十到十五分鐘,每個人都能擠出這點時間。如果有必要的話,就少睡十五分鐘好了。早點起床,滿懷感恩。你想成為什么樣的人,你就要做什么樣的事。要讓自己有目標(biāo)感,問一下自己,你想得到什么。在腦海里想象一下自己想成為什么樣的人。不要忘記,你變得更好,這對你身邊的所有人而言,都有好處。