高效組織會議——贊同、反對和妥協(xié) Agreeing, Disagreeing, and Compromising

贊同、反對和妥協(xié)　Agreeing, Disagreeing, and Compromising

在日常生活中，我們要接觸各種類型的人，當然也包括要接觸（in contact）那些不同類型的人和想法不一樣的人。不贊同并不是要聲嘶力竭、怒發(fā)沖冠。和一個與你觀點背道而馳的人彬彬有禮（polite）地討論是需要技巧和實踐鍛煉的（skill and practice）。

表達贊同

贊同別人的觀點，除了可以說“I agree with you”以外，還有其他很多種說法。你也可以用“absolutely”“exactly”“no doubt”等副詞或短語來增強肯定語氣。

☉I agree with you 100 percent.That’s so true.

我百分之百贊同，那是正確無誤的。

☉I couldn't agree with you more.

我完全贊同您。

☉Tell me about it！

給我說說吧。

☉No doubt about it.You're absolutely right.

毋庸置疑，您完全正確。

☉Absolutely.You have a point there.

毫無疑問，您說得有道理。

☉That’s for sure.That's exactly how I feel.

那當然。跟我想的完全一樣。

☉Exactly.I was just going to say that.

沒錯，我正想這么說。

☉I'm afraid I agree with James.

我贊同詹姆斯。

☉I have to side with Daniel on this one.

在這個問題上，我站在丹尼爾一邊。

☉（Agree with negative statement）Me neither.

（同意某否定意見）我也不（同意）。

☉（Weak）I suppose so./I guess so.

（較弱）我想是的。/我猜是的。

表達不贊同

給別人表述觀點（speak his mind）的機會。傾聽會讓你把注意力集中（focus on）到對話的內(nèi)容上。即便你根本不同意對方的觀點，你也要通過積極關(guān)注（being attentive）來表達你的尊敬。

☉No way.I totally disagree.

行不通，我完全反對。

☉I’m not so sure about that.That’s not always the case.

我不這么看。不總是那樣的。

☉I’m afraid I disagree.That’s not always true.

我恐怕無法茍同。并非總是如此。

☉I totally disagree.

我完全反對。

☉I’d say the exact opposite.

我認為正好相反。

☉I beg to differ.

恕我不敢茍同。

☉Not necessarily.

未必。

打斷

平心靜氣地討論，不要指名道姓，惡語中傷。要溫和體貼（courteous and consideration），引導(dǎo)對方向你的觀點靠攏，在甩出自己的觀點時也要兼顧對方的感受。退出的時候要做到承上啟下，保持禮貌。

☉Can I add something here?

我能補充兩句嗎？

☉Is it okay if I jump in for a second?

如果你們不介意的話，我能插句話嗎？

☉If I might add something……

我能否補充點……

☉Can I throw my two-cents in?

我能否表達一下我的想法？

☉Sorry to interrupt, but……

很抱歉打斷你了，但是……

☉（After accidentally interrupting someone）Sorry, go ahead./Sorry, you were saying……

（在偶然打斷某人后）對不起，請繼續(xù)。/對不起，您剛才說……

☉（After being interrupted.）You didn’t let me finish.

（在被打斷之后）你剛才沒有讓我說完。

妥協(xié)或轉(zhuǎn)換話題

當討論迷失方向（leading nowhere）時就該轉(zhuǎn)換話題了。如果雙方都已掃興就沒有必要繼續(xù)下去了。禮貌地請求對方或者自己主動換一個有趣的話題，也可以直接說想休息一下。

☉Let's just move on, shall we?

讓我們談些別的，行嗎？

☉Let's drop it.

讓我們先到此為止吧。

☉I think we're going to have to agree to disagree.

我想我們只好各持己見了。

☉Whatever you say.

你說什么就是什么吧。

☉If you say so.

就按你說的吧。

總結(jié)

“理不辯則不明”，無論你是否贊同對方的觀點，都應(yīng)當是“君子之爭”。要別人心悅誠服，就得先當謙謙君子，以理服人。即便是不贊同別人的觀點，也要認真傾聽，理解其出發(fā)點。如果沒有談下去的必要，就審時度勢，調(diào)整話題，畢竟“友誼第一”。

Words　單詞表

carpet地毯

climate氣候

economic經(jīng)濟的

memo備忘錄

misread錯讀，誤讀

open house開放參觀

practical joke惡作劇

presentable體面的，漂亮的

promot促進；升級

qualified合格的

repaint重畫，重新繪制

repair修復(fù)

replace替換，取代

resale轉(zhuǎn)售，轉(zhuǎn)賣

selective選擇性的

Phrases　短語表

fixer-upper有待修繕的

fix-me-up尚需修整的

head（a department）領(lǐng)導(dǎo)（一個部門）hot new thing熱門新事物I bet我敢打賭，我肯定

jump in跳躍

jump on（sth）馬上抓住機會做某事

move on繼續(xù)前進

on this one就此一（動詞）

outta luck不走運，運氣差

pretty非常的

show a house展示房子

side with（person）支持（某人）

take place發(fā)生

takes time需要時間

that's crazy那真是瘋了

the joke's on（person）跟（某人）開玩笑的

turn-around profit周轉(zhuǎn)利潤

What were they thinking?他們當時在想什么？

You'll never guess.你永遠猜不到。

實景對話1

A：Did you hear about who got promoted to head the Sales Department?

You'll never guess！Daniel Barnes, the old maintenance guy. I don'tknow what the management was thinking！

B：What?！Daniel Barnes just cleans the office. How can he do sales?That's crazy！

A：That's for sure. That's exactly how I feel.They must have made this decision as a practical joke！

B：No doubt about it. You're absolutely right.I bet they will tell us all tomorrow morning that the joke's on us.

C：Is it okay if I jump in for a second?If I might add something, I think you might have misread the memo. The new head of Sales is Barney Daniels, not Daniel Barnes.And Daniel Barnes has also been promoted to Maintenance Department head.

A：Oh, I didn't realize that.

B：Me neither.

C：And if you don't mind, can I throw my two-cents in?I think that if the management did ask Daniel Barnes to lead the Sales Department, he might do a better job than Barney Daniels！

A：I totally disagree. I know Barney pretty well.I think he's pretty qualified.

B：I'm afraid I agree with James. I have to side with Barney on this one.

A：你有沒有聽說是誰被提升為銷售部主管了？你絕對猜不到！是丹尼爾·巴恩斯，維護保養(yǎng)的那個老家伙。真不知道領(lǐng)導(dǎo)是怎么想的！

B：什么？丹尼爾·巴恩斯只會打掃辦公室，他怎么會搞銷售？太瘋狂了吧！

A：那當然。跟我想的完全一樣。做這樣的決定一定是個惡作??！

B：錯不了。你完全正確。我打賭明天一早他們就會告訴大家那是在和我們開玩笑。

C：如果你們不介意的話，我能插句話嗎？如果我補充點什么的話，我想一定是你誤讀了備忘錄。新的銷售部總監(jiān)是巴尼·丹尼爾斯，不是丹尼爾·巴恩斯。而且丹尼爾·巴恩斯也被提升為維修部的頭兒了。

A：哦，我還真沒有意識到那個。

B：我也沒有。

C：如果你們不介意的話，我能否表達一下我的想法？如果經(jīng)理部讓丹尼爾·巴恩斯來領(lǐng)導(dǎo)銷售部的話，他可能會比巴尼·丹尼爾斯干得好。

A：我完全不同意。我很了解巴尼。我想他完全能勝任。

B：我也贊同詹姆斯所說的。在這點上，我站在巴尼的一邊。

實景對話2

A：The open house needs to take place next week. We've got to jump on this right away, or we might lose the opportunity.

B：No way. I totally disagree.There is no way that we can get the property ready by next week. There are so many repairs that must be made；the carpeting needs to be replaced, and all the rooms need to be repainted.It takes time to make a house presentable to buyers.If we show the house before it's ready we'll lose opportunity.

A：I'm not so sure about that. It's not always the case that buyers want a finished product. Many investors are looking for a fix-me-up.The hot new thing is buying houses that need a little work and making a turn-around profit on the resale.

B：I'm afraid I disagree. Maybe in last year's real estate market you might be able to load off a fixer-upper. But that's not always true in today's economic climate.Nowadays people are more selective.

A：I'd say the exact opposite. The economic downturn is the perfect time for people to pick up foreclosed properties at a fraction of their actual value. Investment in real estate is hot right now.We've got to move on this property or we're gonna be outta luck.

B：Not necessarily. I still think we should wait.

A：展示屋必須在下周完工。我們得馬上著手做這件事，否則我們將會丟失這個機會。

B：行不通。我完全反對。我們無法做到在下周前就把房子準備就緒。有許多地方需要修補。地毯需要換，所有的房間都需要重新粉刷。要讓房子煥然一新地出現(xiàn)在買家面前是需要時間的。如果還沒有準備好就展示房子，我們肯定會失去這次機會的。

A：我不這么看。并不是所有的買家都想要成品。許多投資者都是在找有待修補的半成品。一個新的熱門事物就是買一個還需要整修的房子，稍作修繕后再賣。

B：我恐怕無法茍同。在去年那樣的房地產(chǎn)大環(huán)境下，你或許能夠賣掉需整修的房子，但在今年的經(jīng)濟氣候下就不是這樣了?，F(xiàn)在人們更挑剔了。

A：要我說事實正好相反。經(jīng)濟下滑使人們財政能力受限而更傾向于選擇待整修房?，F(xiàn)在投資房地產(chǎn)是炙手可熱的時機。在這個房產(chǎn)上我們必須積極挺進，否則我們就倒霉了。

B：未必。我仍然覺得我們應(yīng)該等。