14句話讓你變成自信的人

1. There Really Is More Right With You Than Is Wrong

你身上對(duì)的總比錯(cuò)的多。

Time for a little pep talk here. The truth of the matter is that while it may feel like it, you don’t screw up anymore than anyone else. Cut yourself some slack; you are as human as the rest of us and you need to remember that mistakes are part of life. Time to stop comparing yourself with others and live your best life。

該講些打氣的話了。事實(shí)上，盡管有時(shí)覺(jué)得自己錯(cuò)得不行，但實(shí)際上你并沒(méi)有比其他人搞得更砸。放自己一馬吧;你也跟大家一樣只是個(gè)普通人而已，請(qǐng)記住：錯(cuò)誤也是生活的一部分。所以別再拿自己跟別人比較了，努力過(guò)好自己的生活吧。

2. Accept The “Now” And Move On

接受“現(xiàn)在”，繼續(xù)前行。

There is a certain power to accepting the circumstances and having the mind-set to carry on and move forward. Give yourself the gift of forgiving yourself from the mistake made, the stutter, or the stumble. Forgiveness begins at home and you really should accept the situation as a temporary one in order to move forward。

有一種力量可以讓你接受環(huán)境，使你擁有繼續(xù)前行的心態(tài)。原諒自己所犯的錯(cuò)誤、磕絆或失足吧。發(fā)自?xún)?nèi)心地寬恕自己，相信目前的境遇只是暫時(shí)的，你可以繼續(xù)前行。

3. Be Gentle With Yourself

溫柔對(duì)待自己。

Max Ehrmann wrote, “Be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here。” Gentler, more honest words have ever, ever been written. Psychologists now claim that a shocking secret to success is indeed being kind to yourself. The secret is to value yourself as much as, but no more than, you do others。

馬克斯-厄爾曼寫(xiě)道：“要溫柔對(duì)待自己。你同樹(shù)木繁星一樣，也是宇宙之子，你有權(quán)利生存在這個(gè)世界上。”如此溫柔透徹的句子!心理學(xué)家發(fā)現(xiàn)，成功的一個(gè)驚人秘密就是“溫柔對(duì)待自己”。這個(gè)秘密就是，你要如同尊重別人一樣尊重自己。

4. Focus On Progress Rather Than Perfection

重在進(jìn)步，而非完美。

People plagued with the ideal of perfectionism, believe it or not, is a stopping point. The attempt to be perfect, rather than driving you forward, is punishing and stops a forward momentum. Instead, focus on progress made in order to continue down the path of success. Certainly it is not easy, and it’s an issue that many struggle with. The fact is, that no one or thing is ever perfect。

不論信與不信，人們多少總覺(jué)得完美主義才是終點(diǎn)。對(duì)完美的追逐并不能使你前進(jìn)，反倒會(huì)削弱前進(jìn)的動(dòng)力。其實(shí)，若想取得成功，應(yīng)該更注重進(jìn)步。當(dāng)然這并非易事，很多人都為此不斷努力?，F(xiàn)實(shí)是，沒(méi)有任何人或任何事是完美的。

5. Make A Decision To Stop Feeling Terrible

下定決心不再情緒低落。

Shockingly, the decision not to perpetuate negative self-talk can be a boost and a boon to negative self-reflection. It takes the mind-set to believe that you are worthy of the challenge and in so being good enough to work through the situation, whatever it may be. In this way, you empower yourself to continue onward。

令人驚訝的是，不再繼續(xù)消極地自言自語(yǔ)的決心，能極大地驅(qū)散消極的自我反省。新的心態(tài)會(huì)讓你相信自己有能力應(yīng)對(duì)挑戰(zhàn)、應(yīng)付當(dāng)前情況下的任何工作。這樣，你便賦予了自己繼續(xù)前進(jìn)的力量。

6. Stay Positive And Move Forward

保持積極，不斷前進(jìn)。

This is indeed very difficult. It is so very easy to think only of the negative and stay down in the wicked rut. There really is power in positive thinking. Instead of the woulda-coulda-shoulda, think of the can do and will do. Positive thinking puts power in your mind to act instead of staying stuck mulling over the circumstance or the mistake made。

這個(gè)真的很難。人們太容易只想著消極面然后一蹶不振了。積極思維真的充滿(mǎn)了力量。與其不斷假設(shè)如何如何，不如想想自己能做什么，然后采取行動(dòng)。積極的想法讓你充滿(mǎn)能量，不再陷在已經(jīng)發(fā)生的情況或錯(cuò)誤之中。

7. Try A Different Angle

嘗試不同的角度。

Need that passing grade? Or perhaps this is something that simply has to be done and cannot be ignored or move forward from. Maybe it is a task that has to be done, but you feel it is demeaning or degrading. That’s ok. Sometimes changing the way you think of a difficult task may be enough. Or use a different technique for getting the work done。

需要升級(jí)?或者遇上了必須得完成、無(wú)法回避或跳過(guò)的事情?或許這個(gè)任務(wù)必須得完成，但你卻覺(jué)得不太值得。這沒(méi)什么。有時(shí)只要改變一下你看待困難任務(wù)的方式就行了。或者嘗試換個(gè)方法搞定工作吧。

8. Find A Way To Love Yourself

找到愛(ài)自己的方式。

The key to loving yourself is accepting yourself as you are. Of course, this does not mean not attempting to improve yourself. It does mean accepting yourself for who you are, accepting responsibility for the mistake you’ve made, and moving on. It is important not to stop from any one given mistake, but instead to keep going。

愛(ài)自己的關(guān)鍵是接受本真的自我。當(dāng)然，這并不意味著停止不前，而是要你接受自己本來(lái)的樣子，為所犯的錯(cuò)誤承擔(dān)責(zé)任，然后繼續(xù)前行。千萬(wàn)不要因?yàn)槟硞€(gè)錯(cuò)誤而擱淺，你應(yīng)該繼續(xù)前進(jìn)。

9. Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People

停止拿自己與他人比較。

There can only be one you, warts and all. The truth of the matter is that while we are acutely aware of our mistakes, we rarely see the mistakes of others. We do see their achievements and successes. And unless we live with them, we tend to see others only when they are at their best. No one can be at their best all day, every day. They make mistakes for better or worse, the same as anyone else。

不論優(yōu)缺點(diǎn)如何，這世上只有一個(gè)你。其實(shí)，盡管我們很清楚自己的錯(cuò)誤，卻很少看到別人的——我們只看到他們的成就與成功。而且，除非住在一起，否則我們往往只會(huì)看到他們最好的一面。沒(méi)有人可以一直處于最佳狀態(tài)。每個(gè)人都會(huì)時(shí)不時(shí)地犯些錯(cuò)誤。

10. Learn To Appreciate What You Have

學(xué)會(huì)珍惜已經(jīng)擁有的。

Certainly you have more than some and less than others. It may help to keep in mind that some people do not have as much as you, even if you only have a little. Get to know someone who has less than you, through volunteering or simply talking with others you may not normally talk too. Practice gratitude by reaching out to the people who have been important in your life。

自然，你所擁有的應(yīng)該比上不足比下有余。如果你能提醒自己：雖然擁有得很少，但還有人不如自己，或許會(huì)樂(lè)觀很多。通過(guò)參加志愿活動(dòng)，或跟那些平常不太接觸的人交談，去了解不如自己的人吧。學(xué)會(huì)感恩，多聯(lián)系那些在你生活中非常重要的人。

11. The Truth Is, Life Really Isn’t Fair

現(xiàn)實(shí)是——生活確實(shí)不公平。

And such a cruel truth it is. People who don’t deserve a terminal illness get sick and die. Others have trouble follow them around like an unruly puppy. Unfortunately, there isn’t a whole lot you or anyone else can do about this reality. Get to know others and lean on them when possible. Talk with people who share the same burden to learn how to cope and to help you through life’s tasks。

現(xiàn)實(shí)就是這么殘酷。不該患絕癥的人卻病逝，還有些人麻煩總是如影隨形。不幸的是，你或其他任何人對(duì)現(xiàn)實(shí)都無(wú)能為力。但你可以去了解他人，并在必要時(shí)依靠他們。和志同道合的人交流，進(jìn)而學(xué)會(huì)如何應(yīng)付生活中的問(wèn)題。

12. Some Things Are Not As They Appear

有些事情并非看到的那樣。

Due to the fact that we are really voyeur’s in other people’s lives, we have no idea how they have accomplished one thing or another. For example, one person may have the required experience for a job, while another had the right connections. The fact is, we do not know and have no way of knowing how a person is maneuvering through his or her life。

人們都很愛(ài)窺探別人的生活，但又壓根兒不知道別人是怎樣一次又一次取得成功的。舉個(gè)例子，某人或許具備某份工作所要求的經(jīng)驗(yàn)，但另一個(gè)人卻擁有不錯(cuò)的人際關(guān)系。事實(shí)是，我們不知道、也沒(méi)有辦法知道別人是如何經(jīng)營(yíng)各自生活的。

13. Change What You Can And Learn To Accept What Can’t Be Changed

改變自己能夠改變的，接受那些不能改變的。

Take control of areas of your life when you can. A good place to start is how you problem-solve or think about a situation. You can control how a problem is approached and how you will deal with the problem. While nothing can change the past, there are steps you can take toward a brighter future. What are the goals you can begin today toward where you want to be?

在力所能及范圍內(nèi)經(jīng)營(yíng)好自己的生活。如何解決問(wèn)題或看待某個(gè)情形便是不錯(cuò)的開(kāi)端。你可以控制問(wèn)題的出現(xiàn)及其解決辦法。雖然無(wú)法改變過(guò)去，但你可以采取行動(dòng)創(chuàng)造一個(gè)更美好的未來(lái)。今天你可以開(kāi)始怎樣的目標(biāo)，進(jìn)而實(shí)現(xiàn)自己的渴求呢?

14. Don’t Forget To Get Started

不要忘記開(kāi)始行動(dòng)。

It is very easy to simply stop forward momentum and dwell on all that has gone wrong. Make the commitment to change, whatever that change may be. Keep a journal as progress is made. In this way, you can physically see the progress being made. It is always a good thing to break the process into smaller steps while advancing toward a specific goal。

人們很容易停止前進(jìn)，一味陷在已經(jīng)錯(cuò)發(fā)的一切。不論改變是什么，請(qǐng)努力做出改變吧。以日記的形式記錄下進(jìn)步。這樣，你能清晰看到取得的進(jìn)步。在實(shí)施具體目標(biāo)時(shí)，最好把整個(gè)過(guò)程分成幾個(gè)小階段，這樣比較有益。