三十歲時，友誼的模樣

What Friendship Should Look Like in Your Thirties

人到三十，生活的重心就發(fā)生了改變。以前覺得很重要的事，現(xiàn)在想想就覺得那時候的自己好傻。在我30歲生日那天，我才意識到我的生活已經改變了。以前我有很多朋友，但是不能說哪個朋友很好。20歲的時候我也沒有認真思考過和我在一起的朋友。但是現(xiàn)在我三十歲了，我精心挑選著那些能被我稱之為朋友的人?，F(xiàn)在，我只有幾個朋友但是他們都是我希望能成為摯友的人。

When you get to your thirties, your priorities change. Things that may have seemed important before will look silly now. When I celebrated my 30th birthday, I realized that my life was about to change. I used to have tons of friends but I couldn’t say every single one of them was a “quality” friend. During my twenties, I didn’t think about the type of people I spent time with. But now that I’m in my mid-thirties, I’m very selective about the kind of people I want to call my friends. Now, I have fewer friends but they are the best I can ever pray for.

你們有一定的相似之處

1. You’re alike

不管是政治觀念、文學喜好、還是電影喜好方面，你們肯定有一些相似之處，有一些共通的地方。

There has to be some similarities whether it be love of politics, literature, movies. There just has to be a common ground.

彼此尊重

2. You show each other mutual respect

每個聰明的人都知道尊重是自己掙來的，真正的朋友間會彼此尊重。他們知道什么時候需要安靜、給你私人空間，也知道什么時候把你拉回現(xiàn)實。我的朋友會給我建議，即使不贊同但也會尊重我的決定。

Every smart person knows that respect is earned and real friends respect each other. They know when they need to be quiet and give you privacy and space or when they should shake you back to your senses. My friends give me advice but they respect my decision even if they don’t agree with it.

在一起很快樂

3. You have fun together

和真正的朋友在一起即使是在做很傻很瘋的事也覺得很有趣。

True friends have fun with each other even when they are doing the stupidest or craziest things.

能夠互相依靠

4.You can depend on each other

某個朋友有難的時候我不介意半夜爬起來幫忙。因為我相信真正的朋友之間是可以互相依靠的。

I am the type of friend who doesn’t mind getting woken up in the middle of the night when a friend is in trouble. Because I believe that true friends can depend on each other.

他們會接受你

5.They accept you

這是摯友的一個最重要的特點---他們彼此接受。不會因朋友犯下的錯、朋友的過去而評判他。

This is one of the most important quality of real friends—they accept each other for what they are or are not. They don’t judge each other for the mistakes their friends make, or their past.

很善解人意

6.They’re thoughtful with you

真正的朋友會為你考慮，會擔心你，也會和你傾訴他們的憂愁。

True friends think about you, worry about you, and tell you when they’re worried.