Quora精選：我是個缺乏安全感的人，怎么辦

I am the type of person who worries a lot, and stays worried most of the time. What can I do?我是沒有安全感的人，怎么辦？

 

獲得748好評的回答@Dave Crisp

You can’t just stop worrying. Worrying has been a huge positive in my life.你不可能停止擔(dān)憂。擔(dān)憂其實可以給生活中帶來些積極的東西。There is lots of evidence that worriers are better prepared for life’s challenges and so tend to do better in the long run. I wouldn’t give it up at all.許多證據(jù)證明擔(dān)心是為了更好地迎接生命中的挑戰(zhàn)，而且長期來說是積極地。我是不會完全不擔(dān)心的。But, it is possible to live better with worry. Mediation and mindfulness (tons of articles and books on how), even for just 10 minutes a day, makes a huge difference. There you learn to worry without fear for one thing.但是，和擔(dān)憂和平相處也是可以的。冥想和專注（就像現(xiàn)在讀書讀報一樣），哪怕只是一天堅持10分鐘，也會有巨大的改變。這樣讓你慢慢不再害怕?lián)鷳n某件事情。Estimates I’ve seen of personality types suggests there might be about 10% of the population that does what we do. That seven hundred million people on the planet presently. You’re in good company.也許根據(jù)個性類型來說，10%的人和我們一樣。地球上有7億人。其實有很多人在陪著你呢。

 

獲得801好評的回答@Aditi Sunil Rao

Keep on telling this to yourself. I read this quote somewhere and kept it saved on my phone to remind myself - 'Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but, takes you nowhere.’一直對自己說。我讀到了這計劃，一直存在手機里提醒自己-“擔(dān)憂是一個搖椅。它會對你產(chǎn)生影響，但是它永遠(yuǎn)都在原地?！?p>

Divert your mind轉(zhuǎn)移注意力Detach yourself from the chain of thoughts that worry you. Go out. Do something. Keep yourself busy.把你的想法從那些讓你擔(dān)憂的事情分離出來。出去走走。做點事情。讓你自己忙起來。

Talk it out說出來This works for a lot of people. Talk to somebody who really understands you. If they are unavailable, get online. There are many anxiety forums where people are there to listen.這一招對很多人有用。和真正懂你的人說。如果他們沒時間，就上網(wǎng)。網(wǎng)上有很多論壇里的人可以聽你傾訴。

Take a break from your schedule在你的時間表在外休息一下Get a holiday with your family, your friends or just tour a new city alone. You will return rejuvenated.和你的家人，朋友去度假，或者只是在一個新的城市自己旅行?；貋淼臅r候你會煥發(fā)全新的激情。

Write a journal寫日記I experienced that writing your worries gives better clarity, reduces the convolution in your head and decreases the frequency of worrisome thoughts.我經(jīng)歷過，寫下憂慮讓你更清楚自己的狀態(tài)，減輕心理負(fù)擔(dān)，減少心煩意亂的情況。

Watch something motivating看點積極地東西A good Ted talk, inspiring movie, or video sometimes gives us the confidence and courage to do something, moving past our worries.一個好的TED演講，鼓舞人心的電影或者視頻，有時候會讓我們做事的時候更加自信，更受鼓舞，來幫助我們走出憂慮。All in all, don't take life that seriously. Remember that you have only one life to live. It's almost no use wasting it over a lot of things we worry about. Breathe. It will get better.總之，不要把生活太當(dāng)回事。記住你只能活一輩子。浪費時間去擔(dān)心很多事情是幾乎完全沒用的。深呼吸。一切都會更好的。

 

（翻譯：Jessie）

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