生活英語(yǔ)聽(tīng)力文章：如何處理正在煩擾你的人
What Are You Doing That Bugs People?
做哪些事會(huì)招人煩?
What is the number one thing people do that bugs you? Think about it for a moment. Do you have something in mind?
別人做什么最招你煩?花點(diǎn)時(shí)間想想看。想出來(lái)了嗎?
How do you feel about people who do that? Do you want to shake your head in disgust? Do you want to roll your eyes? Do you want to bite your tongue as you resist saying something? Do you want to blow your horn? How does this affect your impression of them?
你對(duì)那樣做的人怎么看?是不是想搖頭表示鄙視?是不是懶得看?你對(duì)他們很無(wú)語(yǔ)?你也想大放厥詞?這如何影響到你對(duì)他的印象?
Not surprisingly, people who lie, are intentionally deceitful, or flaunt arrogance were hot buttons for many who commented. The most common theme that emerged had to with inconsiderate people. Some of the inconsiderate things listed included people who:
毫不奇怪的是，那些說(shuō)謊的人都是有意欺騙別人，而那些傲慢地自吹自擂的人都是許多人喜歡討論的熱點(diǎn)話題。他們最多的觀點(diǎn)是這些人不會(huì)體諒人。下面列舉了一些不顧別人的行為：
Don’t use their turn signals
Drive too close to the car in front of them
Flick their cigarette butts out the window
Don’t hold the door open
Don’t respond to emails, texts, and calls
Interrupt while someone is talking
Scan their phone or computer for messages during a conversation
Leave their shopping cart in the parking lot rather than returning it
Are late for calls and appointments
Eat or chew gum with their mouth open
The number and nature of these responses prompted today’s lesson that deals with what happens when we encounter someone who does the very thing that bugs us.
不打轉(zhuǎn)向燈;與前面的車距太短;往車窗外扔煙頭;過(guò)去后就關(guān)門;不回郵件，短信和電話;打斷別人說(shuō)話;交談中查手機(jī)短信或郵件;把購(gòu)物車留在停車場(chǎng)而不歸還超市;遲遲不回電話或約會(huì)遲到;張開(kāi)嘴吃東西或嚼口香糖。鑒于回應(yīng)這些做法的人數(shù)和方法，我們這節(jié)課就來(lái)談?wù)劗?dāng)我們遇到那些做事很招人煩的人時(shí)，如何處理這種情況。
Even more importantly, what happens when we’re the ones who are bugging people? How does it affect their view of us?
更重要的是，如果別人覺(jué)得我們很煩又會(huì)怎樣呢?這對(duì)他們對(duì)我們的看法有什么影響?
Why You Should Care
為什么要在乎這個(gè)?
In the context of personal and professional development, you need to know one of the worst things you can do is something that annoys or bugs another person.
在人際關(guān)系和職業(yè)發(fā)展環(huán)境中，你要知道，你做的最不好的事就是去煩擾別人。
Upon reading this, you may feel one of two ways,
通過(guò)這篇文章，你可能會(huì)體會(huì)到一下兩種方式之一：
Why should I care if I’m bugging anybody? I can’t please everybody!
What do I do that bugs people and how does this affect their view of me?
You might have guessed by now that I believe you should care. Here’s why:
我為什么要在乎我是否在打擾別人?我又不能取悅所有人!我做的哪些事會(huì)影響別人?別人又會(huì)怎么看我呢?我想你現(xiàn)在應(yīng)該已經(jīng)猜到了我會(huì)說(shuō)你要在乎，原因如下：
When you have a habit that bothers other people and do nothing about it, you brand yourself as someone who is inconsiderate. Do inconsiderate people win friends, influence people, or get promotions?
Most people don’t even realize that what they’re doing may be bugging others. Quite plainly, this creates a big ugly pimple on their reputation!
Finally, a carefree attitude of “It’s a free country. So what if you don’t like it?” will cause you to end up unloved, unappreciated, unpopular, and unhappy. Remember, it’s a small world.
如果你有煩擾別人的習(xí)慣，并且還不愿改，那你在別人眼中就是一個(gè)自私自利的人。這樣的人能有朋友，能有影響力或者能得到提升嗎?大多數(shù)人甚至都沒(méi)意識(shí)到他們的所作所為正在煩擾別人。這是很淺顯易懂的，這樣的人肯定不會(huì)得到什么好評(píng)!最后，那些懷有“這是個(gè)自由的國(guó)度，你不喜歡又怎樣?”這種不負(fù)責(zé)任的態(tài)度的人是不會(huì)招人喜歡、欣賞、歡迎的，也不會(huì)幸福的。記住，這個(gè)世界很小。
Are You Ready to Learn About Yourself?
準(zhǔn)備好了解自己了嗎?
The first step toward ridding yourself of habits that others may find distasteful or offensive and preserving your reputation is to learn what you may be doing that bugs other people. The easiest way to do this is to simply ask. It may be awkward or even slightly embarrassing, but it won’t kill you.
想要擺脫那些讓人不快的冒犯性習(xí)慣并贏得好評(píng)，第一步就是要知道你的所作所為會(huì)不會(huì)影響別人。最簡(jiǎn)單的方法就是去問(wèn)別人，這可能有點(diǎn)奇怪甚至?xí)行擂危€不足以要你的命。
Start with your spouse, your children, or another family member. Ask them for their honesty. And when they do offer to tell you, don’t get defensive. When you’re ready, ask a trusted colleague, supervisor, or someone who reports to you. It takes courage, but I guarantee they’ll respect you for asking, especially when they see you making an effort to change.
就從你的配偶，子女或其他家庭成員開(kāi)始吧，讓他們實(shí)話實(shí)說(shuō)。當(dāng)他們準(zhǔn)備好對(duì)你說(shuō)大實(shí)話的時(shí)候，你就不要再把自己“保護(hù)”起來(lái)了。當(dāng)你準(zhǔn)備好了，就問(wèn)一個(gè)可靠的同事，上司或下屬。這是要勇氣的，但我相信他們會(huì)尊重你的問(wèn)話，尤其是當(dāng)他們看到你在努力改變自己的時(shí)候。
If you just can’t bring yourself to ask anyone outright, here are ways to figure it out yourself.
如果你完全不敢問(wèn)別人，下面這些方法可以讓你自助。
Make a conscious effort to watch how others are viewing your actions and reactions.
Notice when others seem to be turned off by something you say or do.
Take time to think about what you can start doing to be more considerate of others.
Today, rather than post what bugs you, I’m asking you to leave a comment about a habit of yours that you want to seriously eliminate. Simple answer this question.
自覺(jué)努力地看別人是如何看待你的行動(dòng)并作出了怎樣的反應(yīng)。留意一下別人是否因?yàn)槟愕乃f(shuō)所為而退避三舍。花點(diǎn)時(shí)間想想你能做些什么來(lái)更好地為別人著想。今天，我要你留下你最想擺脫的壞習(xí)慣而不是那些煩擾你的事。簡(jiǎn)單回答這個(gè)問(wèn)題。
